What to Do When the Resistance Gets Physical

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When The Resistance Gets PhysicalIt’s 3 PM and I’m staring at my to-do list. There are 2 phone calls on there that I really don’t want to make.

Confession. I’m terrified of the phone…
says the REALTOR.

One call is to a potential client who I don’t know too well and may not want to hear from me. The other is to set an appointment to go list a home in an area I’m not comfortable with just yet.

  • I’m feeling a little unsettled, so I put on some music.
  • I’m feeling a little sleepy, so I go and grab a cup of coffee.
  • I’m feeling a little hungry, so I pick up a candy bar.

Eventually, I force myself make the phone calls, but waste tons of time getting there. That’s one of my struggles. Not every day, but some. Your struggle probably looks a little different.

Can You Relate?

Maybe you’ve got a huge exam tomorrow. You need to study, but you’re feeling a little stressed. So, you put off studying and reach for a bag of Doritos and some Hulu.

Perhaps you have a team member who you need to let go. It could be the first time you’ve ever fired someone. But, you just couldn’t make it to the office. You’re sick in bed.

Maybe you need to go home and intentionally pursue a better marriage. Your tense as can be, so you stop by the bar for happy hour instead. You know. Just to loosen up.

What Are We Doing?

We know what we need to do in order to grow. The resistance, however, is thoroughly opposed to those things. It manifests itself physically. In this moment we have a choice. Do we self medicate, like I did with music, coffee, and candy bars?

Or, do we choose to overcome?

Just Do It

I was tickled pink when I heard pastor Pete Wilson relay this reminder yesterday:

“It is much easier to act yourself into a feeling
than to feel your way into an action.”

This may feel like a let down, and I’m sorry to disappoint, but you just have to get over that physical discomfort and do the work. The answer lies within the action. Any remedy short of simply overcoming the resistance is just another type of self-medication.

  • When you feel hungry, fast for the moment.
  • When you feel tired, get up and move.
  • When you feel anxious, pick up the phone.

Am I great at this? Nope, but I’m willing to bet you aren’t either, so lets work on it together.

This is the way to handle it when your resistance gets physical, but what do you do when the resistance becomes spiritual?

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  • http://TheInvisibleOffice.com Erica Cosminsky

    I’ll tell you my biggest resistance right now is finishing my book. It’s over 250 pages and about 90% done. Sometimes I feel so gripped with fear as I try to finish editing it, I have to walk away. Sort of ridiculous but causing me to waste a ton of time.

    If it makes you feel better, I hate making calls too.

    • http://kennysilva.net Kenny Silva

      Finishing really is the scariest part. Once you ship it, its out there for everyone to see. That’s when you’re the most vulnerable. People could love it or hate. Regardless of what they think of your work, however, you are not defined by your work.

      I’ve read your blog. You know how to write. You also know what you’re talking about. Not everyone will read and love your book, but the people who want and need to read it will. Let those who have ears to hear, hear, right?

      All that matters is that you unload the truck on us. Bring it real and bring it hard. Teach us something. Our lives will be better for it and so will yours.

      So, hurry up and finish the thing so I can read and love it! :)

  • http://websitesgiveback.com/blog/ Elena Patrice

    Oh how I can relate! My living is made on the phones right now and there are days a huge weight is around my neck and I’m paralyzed with fear. I’ve become much, much better at making the contacts and getting our information out – it’s the follow up and ALL the insecurities that come with it that causes undue stress. I’ve been in sales in one form or another most of my career; however phone sales are a new adventure for me. To give myself some credit, I have made big strides. (Having “Everyone is Jesus” and “Jesus I Trust in You” taped on my laptop offers great comfort.;))

    Kenny, it’s nice to know others experience these types of things, can relate and share – it takes some of the loneliness out of this entrepreneurial journey. I like the idea of all of us working on this together … thank you. You have a gift … I’m very glad you’re sharing it. Much kindness, Elena

  • Tanna

    I am right there with you about the phone!
    For me right now it is public speaking. I have been stressing about a talk I have to give next week. Have worried about it for 3 weeks but just now getting it ready. I think that is actually an improvement for me though! I could have waited until this weekend to write my notes! :)

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